Boundaries, cultural appropriation, expectation and suffering.

In modern society, we say that people cannot make us feel a particular way, that it is just our perspective that creates that emotional experience. And this is said all in good faith, as a refusal to take ownership of our feelings is a denial of our own power. By giving others words power over … Continue reading Boundaries, cultural appropriation, expectation and suffering.

Forgive like you wish to be forgiven.

What does it mean to forgive? Not in a flippant, half-hearted lip-service way, but to really forgive. Those who trespass against us, even the bible said we must forgive them, and yet it is difficult. We perceive situations of transgression, error, fault and betrayal as being consciously orchestrated against little old us, as if it … Continue reading Forgive like you wish to be forgiven.

Invisible damage.

Sometimes it feels like I am the only one who has suffered, although I know this to be false it feels as if it were so. Everyone with their pre-packaged interiorly designed lives with sparkly loving childhoods, it feels so... lonely. Maybe it's because those who suffer like I have do not often overcome circumstance, … Continue reading Invisible damage.

The Tides of Life.

Life is breath, and breath is flux; in, out - forever undulating, well at least until the last breath of life is breathed. To live is to change, literally. The universe is and always has been falling apart; entropy. True in relationships, too. Expectations are artificial, for how can you impose rigidity and structure on … Continue reading The Tides of Life.

Blind spots.

Blind spots, we all have them. Visually, mentally, relationally - we are afflicted. We can believe with certainty that our reality is so, but our blind spots make it possible for this reality to simultaneously not be so. It pains me to know that there is always something that I'm missing. I continuously feel that … Continue reading Blind spots.

Love is not enough

Love is not enough. You may experience the most breathtaking attraction to someone, but this, this isn't enough. Nor is compatibility alone enough to support a romantic relationship; you must have both. A relationship with only love, is a relationship where you cannot agree on how life should be, where you should live, and what … Continue reading Love is not enough

You must WORK.

If you want to reach the highest heights - you must work. You must grind harder than anyone. You must work intelligently and you must adapt to changing circumstances, pivoting to further your mission, else risk losing effectiveness and efficiency, ultimately falling by the way side. Blood thirsty hounds are hot on your trail, and … Continue reading You must WORK.

Trial, wisdom; test.

As we move through life, we experience pain, trial and tribulation. Negative experiences, bad relationships, failed attempts, financial difficulties, difficulty relating to and reconciling with parents and other relatives; difficult housemates, co-workers, bosses, and confusion over our life purpose, just to name a few. The adversity that we encounter during life has been presented to … Continue reading Trial, wisdom; test.

Fear, or growth?

Do not choose comfort over fear, over growth. A life lived in comfort is a life drowned in stagnant water, and stagnant water isn't fit for consumption, this is where dreams go to die. The choices of others to suffocate themselves in comfort are not reflective of your worth, of your value. No, these people … Continue reading Fear, or growth?